Asking about Pregnancy...??

Is it just me or is asking about pregnancy, the plans there of, or the desire to be , a VERY difficult thing. As a Catholic who is newly in the parental class, my wife and I took a very open and faith centered approach to LIFE. [This is not meant as a "more holy than you" comment.] Meaning: when we got married we said that we would remain open to life - or we would respect God's will for us. Whether that meant 12 kids or 0 we did not know. We also had the adoption discussion PRIOR to marriage and any natural children so that our minds and hearts wouldn't be clouded by the emotional experiences of life and birth (or the lack there of).

I know that a lot of people have very private beliefs about this entire area, and although I want to dive deeper into these later, my first question is very basic:

How do we as Catholics properly ask others if they are hoping to conceive or desiring to conceive?

I don't think the basic: "Are you folks TRYING to get pregnant?", is proper. It presumes too much, and it also improperly places an incorrect philosophy upon you the asker in what you think or believe about the matter.

I think that the following is also improper: "Would you all like to have children soon/eventually/ever?" Although it can be qualified and possibly proper in some situations, and framed within the construct of God's desire for you, it is open to a large margin of error in terms of context and wording.

The closest thing I have been able to come up with is:
"Would you like to be blessed with Children soon?"
Even that sounds odd. I don't really think there is a good solution in today's day and age that handles the Catholic approach to LIFE AND doesn't assail peoples belief about birth control. Any suggestions?