Deception by your eyes- a fun post!

The imaginations that flowed to your mind when you saw this is something so similar to mine, and i know it so well.. hehe.. Well this is what i call deception in love and, love alone! But, is its really love alone that deceives us?? Heres a couple arm in arm and another hand in hand, but the only difference is the couples share one female partner! You can already see that but deception can be caused by everything even your eyes and no wonder you're viewing a photo-shopped image and already imagining and wondering if you're in the same situation! Ahh.. but thats just a fake image for now ;)

Romantic tips for her, some are do it yourself

People walk into a relationship romantically but at some point of time it starts to fade, blame it on the other demands. Why wait for something bitter when you are the one who can keep a relationship from withering? romance is one element that needs to be active all the time whether you are near or far.

If you are a male facing a relationship problem with your spouse, girlfriend or stable partner? these wonderful romantic tips and ideas can help you keep both remain romantically healthy. Cajoling/attention, flowers/chocolates are always first preferences but wait.. including these, there are lots more you can do to show how special she is in your life! go for it!

Roses on blades! haha.. Put rose petals above the blades on a fan and as the lady takes her place beneath the fan, switch it on, and she'll be delighted to bathe under the shower of sweet smelling petals! just don't forget to spray some perfume on the petals..

Take her to movies, go fountain visiting and toss in a coin making a wish together.

During a conversation ask your girlfriend casually about her favorite things, make a secret list and keep it with you. In the case of music.. sing those songs and burn them in a CD, then gift it to her as a surprise. You both could have a romantic laugh or two!

Or, why not strum the guitar and sing to her whilst on a candle night dinner at home or near the fireplace..

When you call at the times she at work, ask for the most beautiful person in the world(but only to her)..

Places to leave a romantic note-
In the refrigerator..
Jewelery box
Make up kit
As a bookmark(page being read).

Gather the pictures of your school, collage or courting time and upload them to a popular site as facebook etc.. write romantic captions about how you felt during that particular shot. You can also gift her the photos personalizing it decoratively.

Set aside a date for putting up with all the household chores yourself. Name it a wife's/woman's monthly day off, and do all the things she wants and decides!

Stroll with your partner beside a beach or in an open space after dinner, whether at home or out.

Let her wake up to a ready made breakfast.

She would love self personalized gifts.. it expresses the time, effort and love you've put into it.

Will update as time permits :-)

How should parents cope with their teen kids in a love relationship

I don't have a teen kid because both my kids are below the ages 10, so i don't have to focus on the 'teen age and their problems' right now, but i guess soon i would have to.. esp when there are issues concerned with teen love. But there are many other parents who have problems with teens in love, so here the question is should we leave them to themselves or should we intervene and guide them? well its obvious we got to guide our kids but make sure we don't force our minds too much on to them.

There are things and phases a teen would have to encounter when he/she is dating or is in love. There would amounts of money spent on gifts, late nights, sleepless nights, excess dieting, heart-breaks, hours of chatting over the phone, internet, and loss of interest in normal activities! what parents should do in this case?

According to me, we should use this as the best time to know our kids better and guide them the right way.

Get your child involved with family activities and discuss the importance and benefits of normal clubbing, academics or sports.

Suggest that spending less on gifts is a good idea and that, the same money can be saved up for later or used for better expenses. Also advice that gifts that are simple and not meant to be worn on the body will be reciprocated well by their partner, esp if your kids in a new relationship. This wont taken too personally, leading to matters of more intimate relationships. But if in steady relationship, personal gifts will be valued and treasured.

Kids of this age don't see the world as adults, so we should be careful not to hurt them and respect their real feelings, no matter how unrealistic the relationship might be.

Keep an eye on their activities and who, when and where but respecting their privacy! Better idea would be to involve and enjoy yourself in their interest and activities so that you are aware of the happenings.

Be open and don't point fun their relationships for they might turn secretive about their activities and their relationships in the future, making it tougher for you as a parent.

3 major reasons why and how to let go in a loveless relationship

I had written in one of my previous posts about You thought breaking up is hard?. Here i have few more points which a couple should look into when a relationship seems wavy, and letting go is often the choice they're left with.

Its often said and heard that letting go isn't easy, but if you put into consideration that.. though love is an emotion we feel right to the deepest point of our hearts, it should never mean you hold on if there too much to handle. It shouldn't ever be taken for granted, because then love turns sour in a relationship which seems like almost falling off a cliff.

One sided love:
First and most important point is when love is one sided. People often love someone even knowing they aren't loved in return. They carry on loving, but soon negligence follows from the partner, and its not fair to love when you aren't in return. This relationship is just for a short term, think of the future, marriage, kids.. family life. Would you like spending your life in a loveless relationship for a lifetime? There will be nothing to discuss about because love cant be forced upon and from your partner. A sensible decision would be to politely walk out of the relationship and your deserving love will surely return or enter into your life when the time is right :-)

Negligence, jealousy and betrayal:
Secondly, giving time to each other is extremely necessary or else the relationship gets suffocating when either one of the two began feeling lonely without his/her partner. There could a kind of loss in interest from either of the partners, reasons are plenty.. a new relationship maybe blossoming or work related issues. There could be compatibility problems when lack of communications inflict conflicts into the relationship. Either of the partners trying avoiding which then obviously lights the match! Imaginations run wild, doubts empower a neglected mind and the blaming arguments tend to follow.. would the relationship based on negligence, jealousy or betrayal last? Another reason to wish the neglected love/relationship a goodbye :-)

Brutality in a relationship:
Thirdly, when one of the partners are rowdy. OK, in the initial period couples love those convincing moments, they also overlook mistakes or hurtful moments because of the love they share. They hurt partner hopes its not going to be repeated, but when it comes to be beaten up or abused.. habits never die! They can to be eliminated for a while, but back again.. this time making the dominated and helpless partner realize how much their lives are at stake. The entire decision is upto you. Throughout your life, you wouldn't want to be backing a partner who abuses you physically or mentally? Think about it and set yourself free.. your life is a precious gift from god, don't let brutality end it :-)

Don't kill yourself for the sake of love. Let your love free and if has to be yours, it will return to you right?

You thought breaking up is hard?

Breaking up is hard indeed, it up may seem the most painful in life, but surviving is far from impossible and in the end, it is the broken-hearts struggle for survival that eventually turns us into a stronger person and helps us overcome all bad things forever. Breaking up means a reconstruction and rethinking of so many plans you once chalked out for life ahead of you. Sadly you have to let go, as that is not the only full stop in life. You got to discover yourself and life goes on..

The sooner you begin the process of moving on, the better. Acceptance will be your first step towards a new life. Don’t let the denial part affect your strength to move on, face it. Say to yourself you are not the loser, he/she has is the loser. Easier said than done, but being realistic is a choice entirely up to you. Reason the breakup, if incapability was the cause and reconciliation was a failure too, then what’s the point of pondering over spilt milk? You two weren’t happy, so the whole purpose of being in a relationship was defeated. It is useless to compromise like they do in the movies, and letting go is a wise step.

tips for asking someone out on a date

A boy meets a girl and desperately wants to ask her out on a date.. he has known her for two long months now and its high time he pulls up his socks and gets to know her feelings too.But he hasn't a least bit of idea of HOW! how should he go about things.

Alot of people have been in situations like this.Wanting to ask out someone special but just don't know how.. sometimes they know the person, sometimes they haven't even seen them! So here's a bit of advice for those who want to ask anyone out on a date!

1)Rid yourself of the fear of rejection.If you fear that you will be rejected by the person you ask out for a date, how will you get through the main base? so just go on and do it! ask that someone special out.. if yes is their answer, your on cloud 9! If no, don't bother.See it as they have lost a opportunity of happiness with you so they really are the one you should feel bad for.If one rejects you, it doesn't mean the next person will! Pick your head up and move on, your date will come true by someone who deserves you!

2)After approaching someone for a date, be specific when asking that person out for a date.For example, you could ask the person the following question: I’m interested in seeing a play at our local theater on either a Wednesday or Thursday would you be interested in attending? This question is able to provide the opportunity for your date to have options on deciding if they want to go on the date with you and if so, they can choose the day they want to go on the date and other options such as meeting you at the theater, etc... always opt for a quiet place where the two of you will get some time to talk.

5)Always have an alternative date and time or location in mind should the person be unsure of their dairy.Giving a person a choice is often pleasing for them.

4)Try asking the person when they are alone and not with their friends, etc.That could create an uncomfortable atmosphere while being around with friends.

3)Asking someone out in person is the best way out.You can get the opportunity to see the person you're about to date face to face.You can also observe their facial expressions and body language!

4) Try to avoid the use alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.Nobody would like a stuttering tongue.

With these useful tips in mind, am sure your first dates going to be a success.Be yourself, enjoy the time you have together, and learn from the experience.